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When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Of course, everyone is their own person, but research has shown that we’re more affected by our environment than we think. Thus, it is crucial that you accompany yourself with individuals that you wanted yourself to be in the future.
As the great quote says;
“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
I have recently observed this one in my personal life. I don’t usually play games on my phone as I considered it a waste of time, however there is this specific video game that my housemates love playing and usually plays when we are all at home.
Since this is one of their past time, I slowly become hooked into it and now playing with them. (they are really nice people but just realized that maybe such time spent on playing can be use for something more fruitful for my future)
I am not saying that video games can never be a good tool to socialize and also that it is a “total time waster” (this may totally vary for different people). The point here is that, your preference may change or perspective towards something may change depending on the people you interact with most of your time.
Every people can influence your beliefs and behaviour, they can also influence your perspective. Thus, if you wanted to be the person with such beliefs and perspective, you need to find people which already has those qualities and associate yourself with them.
“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers, and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it in yourself.” – Steve Jobs.
We may have control on what can influence us but this takes a lot more of awareness and mental toughness to always have such keenness on every influences. If you wanted to meet successful and like-minded people, you have to be intentional in meeting them. You need to start meeting people, may it be online or physically meeting them, understand their values and beliefs thru conversation.
I would also suggest reading biographies of successful people as these also gives you a glimpse of their life and a different lens of perspective towards how they see life and each challenges they encountered before they become successful.
We have to be intentional not just on how we spend our time but also to whom we spend most of our time with. This actually serves as a reminder for everyone that you may not notice it but the people you hang out with can significantly impact where your life will be heading thus you need to be more intentional on the people you spend most of your time with.
Now, let me ask you. Are you currently surrounded with the people influences you to be your future self?